The possible impact on your daughter of bringing this into the open at school so that other children are made aware of what happened does need to be considered. However, should your own exploration determine that there are ongoing behaviors that are sexual and unhealthy in that they are aggressive, unwanted and are not age-appropriate, you may want to make a formal report to the police and your school. I do not necessarily recommend at this time that your school respond with a full-fledged investigation that could potentially become very public and possibly damaging to your daughter’s sense of safety and well-being.Do you have information on how your school responds to these types of situations? Are you comfortable partnering with your school to help design a response to this situation that does not further traumatize your daughter, or put her or the other boy at risk for unwanted (and unproductive) exposure? I would review these questions with another trusted adult as you determine your action steps with your school. He is potentially putting himself and other children at risk for harm with his behaviors and when parents can speak up to other parents about children’s concerning behaviors, then steps can be identified and acted upon to better protect the children.The supervision on the bus needs to be addressed and this can present an opportunity to review your school’s policy on how they handle child on child sexual behaviors. Talking with this boy’s parents should be strongly considered. To find counseling resources for youth, you can check with your insurance provider, primary care physician or your daughter's school counselor may have some resources. Additional supports for her may be very helpful and this may provide a support to you as the parent in helping to understand what your daughter needs in terms of information and guidance regarding healthy and safe behaviors.Additionally if you pursue counseling for your daughter, this therapist may feel that this is a reportable incident and you can work with the therapist through this process. She may also be facing difficulties at school seeing the boy there or even with potential witnesses on the bus. This can provide her the opportunity to share more about what happened and how she is impacted by this event. You may also want to find out more about the type of supervision provided on your daughter’s school bus.Ĭonsider having your daughter see a counselor as well. Have there been other incidents with this boy?.Has anything like this happened before with your daughter?.Some further questions you may want to ask include: Gathering additional information about the situation may be very helpful. Some articles that may help you prepare what to say to your daughter are Stop It Now!'s Understanding Sexual Behaviors in Kids and Talking to Children and Teens and Talking About Sex and Sexuality: A Resource for Parents from Planned Parenthood. Prioritizing your daughter’s need for information regarding appropriate sexual behaviors and personal boundaries will provide you with some next steps. She will also benefit from guidance from you regarding peer pressure and healthy sexuality. She will benefit from your acknowledgment of how frightening the experience must have been for her, as well as your support and comfort. It must have been very scary for her to feel trapped by the other child’s physical force. It seems that your daughter started out playing this game, possibly knowing that it was forbidden territory, but then quickly found herself way out of her depth. The behaviors you described are very concerning.
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